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Relationships 101: Eight Essential Relationship Lists

Posted by ProliferatingTruth on November 26, 2011

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Matthew 12:28-34 - One of the scribes came, and having heard them reasoning together, and perceiving that [Christ] had answered them well, asked him, Which is the first commandment of all? 29 And Jesus answered him, The first of all the commandments is, Hear, O Israel; The Lord our God is one Lord: 30 And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. 31 And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these. 32 And the scribe said unto him, Well, Master, thou hast said the truth: for there is one God; and there is none other but he: 33 And to love him with all the heart, and with all the understanding, and with all the soul, and with all the strength, and to love his neighbour as himself, is more than all whole burnt offerings and sacrifices. 34 And when Jesus saw that he answered discreetly, he said unto him, Thou art not far from the kingdom of God.

The Four Basic Temperaments:

  1. Choleric: The Leader (Fast Forward)

  2. Sanguine: The Talker (Play)

  3. Phlegmatic: The Shy One (Pause)

  4. Melancholy: The Perfectionist (Rewind)

 

The Seven Motivational Spiritual Gifts – Romans 12:6-8:

  1. Prophecy

  2. Ministry

  3. Teaching

  4. Exhortation

  5. Giving

  6. Ruling

  7. Mercy

The Five Love Languages:

  1. Giving of Gifts

  2. Acts of Service

  3. Quality Time

  4. Physical Touch

  5. Words of Affirmation

The Five Languages of Apology – Matthew 5:21-26; 18:7; Luke 17:1-4; 14:31-32; Mark 11:24-26:

  1. Expressing Regret: "I’m Sorry."

  2. Accepting Responsibility: "I Was Wrong."

  3. Making Restitution: "How Can I Make It Right?"

  4. Genuine Repentance: "It’ll Never Happen Again."

  5. Requesting Forgiveness: "Please Forgive Me."

Ten Things Forgiveness Is Not:

  1. Forgiveness Is Not Approving or Diminishing Sin.

  2. Forgiveness Is Not Enabling Sin.

  3. Forgiveness Is Not Denying Wrongdoing.

  4. Forgiveness Is Not Awaiting An Apology.

  5. Forgiveness Is Not Forgetting.

  6. Forgiveness Is Not Ceasing to Feel The Pain.

  7. Forgiveness Is Not A One-Time Event.

  8. Forgiveness Is Not Neglecting Justice.

  9. Forgiveness Is Not Trusting.

  10. Forgiveness Is Not Reconciliation.

Forgiveness Is Not Natural – It’s SUPERnatural.

Forgiveness Is …

  1. Giving Up Your Right to Get Even.

  2. Choosing to Stop Feeding the Anger and Resentment Toward the Person Who Hurt You, but Letting Out Your Hurt in a Positive Way.

  3. Letting All Judgments Toward the Person Who has Hurt You Be Handled by God.

  4. Getting to the Place Where You Can Say to the Person Who Harmed You, “I Wish For You a Blessing on Your Life.”

  5. Realizing That the Hurt Perpetrated Against You may Have Been an Unintentional Offense.

  6. Realizing That the Hurt Perpetrated Against You May Have Been a Misunderstanding.

  7. Realizing That the Hurt Perpetrated Against You May Have Been the Result of a Simple Miscommunication.

  8. Realizing That the Hurt Perpetrated Against You may Have Been the Result of Personal Misconceptions, resulting from a Lack of Knowledge About a Person or Situation.

  9. "Forgiveness is the mental and/or spiritual process of ceasing to feel resentment, indignation or anger against another person for a perceived offense, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution."

Three Powerful Principles of Forgiveness:

  1. When You Have truly Forgiven Someone, You Will Spare Your Offender’s Reputation.

  2. When You Have truly Forgiven Someone, You Will Give God Room To Work With Your Offender, As He Sees Best Fit.

  3. When You Have truly Forgiven Someone, You Will Strive To Willingly Offer Tokens Of Forgiveness And Reconciliation To Your Offender.

Living What You’ve Learned About Relationships – Romans 12:9-21:

1 Let love be without dissimulation – "Love" = agape, or unconditional, love; "Without dissimulation" = sincere, "undisassembled," unfeigned, unhypocritical – or real – Be consistent, and complete, in your investments into people – "undisassembled."

2 Abhor that which is evil – "Abhor" = to detest utterly; "eschew ("eschew" = to turn off, to be completely without) evil" (Job 1:1); "abstain ("abstain" = to hold oneself off, or to refrain) from all appearance ("appearance" = a view, fashion, shape, or sight – if it looks evil, don’t do it)of evil" (1 Thess 5:22); and "whatsoever is not of faith is sin" (Rom 14:23).

3 Cleave to that which is good – "Cleave" = to glue, to stick, or to keep company; and "Good" = good.

10 4 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love – or, "In brotherly love to one
another, love one another fervently."

5 In honour preferring one another – or, "In honor, putting others before you."

11 6 Not slothful in business – or, "In your diligence, not being slothful – "Slothful" = tardy, insolent, or irksome – cf. Prov 25:19 – "Confidence in an unfaithful man in time of trouble is like a broken tooth, and a foot out of joint."

7 Fervent in spirit – or, "In spirit burning" – "Fervent" = hot, boiling, glowing (spoken of solids), fervid, earnest … fervent in spirit.

8 Serving the Lord – or, "Enslaved to the Lord." – "serving" = to be a slave.

12 9 Rejoicing in hope – "Rejoicing" = being glad and full of joy; "hope" = expectation and confidence" – we ought to rejoice when we hear good news, and especially when we hear that a soul has come to Christ!

10 Patient in tribulation – or "In trouble enduring [or, being longsuffering]" – "Patient" = to undergo, to bear up under, or to have fortitude; "tribulation" = pressure, anguish, or burden.

11 Continuing instant in prayer – or, "In prayer stedfastly continuing" – "Continuing instant" = being earnest towards, persevering, being constantly diligent, to adhere closely to, to attend assiduously to [assiduously = steadily attentive]; "in prayer" = worship or diligent oration towards God. Note: Always pray for people; always have people’s best interests in mind; always be concerned enough, and love people enough, to share their concerns – cf. v. 16; and always be ready to offer your sympathy in any given situation. How utterly important prayer is in our relationships!!!!!

13 12 Distributing to the necessity of saints – or, "Imparting to the needs of the saints." – "Necessity" = employment, occasion, demand, requirement, or destitution. Your love to the saints should be a deep, unrestrained love that provides for their deepest needs.

13 Given to hospitality. = Equipped, capable, prone to and reputable to entertain strangers, esp. "of the household of faith" (Eph 4:28) – Equip yourself to love others – that’s why you’re HERE!!!!!

14 14 Bless them which persecute you – "Bless" = to speak well of, to invoke a benediction upon, to prosper; to praise someone; "persecute" = to ensue or to press forward upon.

15 Bless, and curse not – "Curse" = to doom.

15 16 Rejoice with them that do rejoice – "Rejoice" = to greet or be well with somebody.

17 And weep with them that weep – "Weep" = to sob or to wail – In other words, acknowledge people’s joys and hurts alike – don’t be afraid to sympathize with someone who genuinely hurts, or is genuinely happy.

16 18 Be of the same mind one toward another – "Same" = Gk autos; "mind" = interest, sentiment, opinion, to interest oneself or be concerned with someone – Amos 3:3 asks this question: "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" Note: Do you know what a "cry for help" sounds like?

19 Mind not high things – "High" = lofty things – ideals or concepts, attitudes or detachment.

20 But condescend to men of low estate - "Condescend" = to take off together, to passively yield, to transport or carry away with; "of low estate" = depressed, humiliated, cast down, humble, of low degree, or lowly (cf. notes on v. 12)

21 Be not wise in your own conceits – "Conceits" = proximity, detachment, or uninvolvement; Webster = "having a high opinion of one’s self or ability" – in other words, holding off from others in a theoretical attitude, as an observer, just thinking you have the answers for them, when in fact, you don’t have the answers for them, because you really don’t actually understand them like you think you do.

17 22 Recompense to no man evil for evil - "Recompense" = to give back (freely and readily); "evil" = injury or harm – "To no man" – note that this refers equally to friends, enemies, and all general acquaintances.

23 Provide things honest in the sight of all men – "Provide" = to consider in advance, or to look out beforehand, by circumspection; "honest" = valuable or virtuous; not just some men, or certain men, or your favorite men, but ALL MEN!!!!! – cf. 2 Cor 4: 1-2, esp. v. 2: "Therefore seeing we have this ministry, as we have received mercy, we faint not; 2 But have renounced the hidden things of dishonesty, not walking in craftiness, nor handling the word of God deceitfully; but by manifestation of the truth commending ourselves to every man’s conscience in the sight of God. "

18 24 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.

  • "Possible" = "If you are capable, or if you are able."

  • "As much as lieth in you" – "As much as you can do, with the responsibility and power you have."

  • "Live peaceably" = "Be a peacemaker" – whatever you must personally sacrifice, be a peacemaker; and, in the face of the anger of others, … be a peacemaker.

  • Despite the rage that may be welling up inside of you right now … BE A PEACEMAKER, with ALL MEN! - see note for v. 17.

19 Dearly beloved, 25 avenge not yourselves.

26 But rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord – or, "don’t take things into your own hands, but move out of the way of God’s reproofs in people’s lives" - "Give place" = make room; "Vengeance" = vindication, retribution, or punishment; it means to "requite," or to make repayment or return for something.

20 Therefore 27 if thine enemy hunger, feed him.

28 If he thirst, give him drink: for ["because"] in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head – "Two senses are given of this, which I think are both to be taken in disjunctively. Thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head; that is, “Thou shalt either,” 1. “Melt him into repentance and friendship, and mollify his spirit towards thee” (alluding to those who melt metals; they not only put fire under them, but heap fire upon them; thus Saul was melted and conquered with the kindness of David, 1Sa 24:16; 1Sa 26:21) – “thou wilt win a friend by it, and if thy kindness have not that effect then[;]” [or] 2. “It will aggravate his condemnation, and make his malice against thee the more inexcusable. Thou wilt hereby hasten upon him the tokens of God’s wrath and vengeance.” Not that this must be our intention in showing him kindness, but, for our encouragement, such will be the effect. " (Matthew Henry’s Commentary).

21 29 Be not overcome of evil, but

30 But overcome evil with good.

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Relationships 101: A Summary of the Four Temperaments and the Seven Motivational Spiritual Gifts

Posted by ProliferatingTruth on October 14, 2011

God has gifted each of us with certain personality and spiritual gifts. Click on the link below to view a summary of the Temperaments and Spiritual Gifts:

http://www.learning4liferesources.com/Pastor_Counselor_1.html

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God’s Body S.T.A.M.P.

Posted by ProliferatingTruth on October 1, 2011

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This post is based on the handout, "God’s Body Stamp," by Bro. Tom Sooter, Former Vice President, Harvest Baptist Bible College.

God gives every person seven things at conception. These are our personal inheritance from God. We will refer to them as God’s "Body Stamp of Grace." The combination of this seven-fold inheritance is as unique as a fingerprint. And although each fingerprint basically looks alike, close investigation reveals that no two fingerprints are identical. Each inherited "Body Stamp" is also unique. This study is designed to encourage a greater understanding of, and gratefulness for, the wonderful "Body Stamp" inheritance our generous heavenly Father has given to us.

1. BODY – A physical body is God’s "early" inheritance to each individual (Deuteronomy 8:18). At death, each person must give an account of how he invested his body inheritance (1 Corinthians 3:11-15; Romans 14:12). God’s "Body Stamp" also determines or influences other things:

1. Gender (Male or Female) - This establishes your personal "job description" in life – Genesis 1:27.

2. Race – Ecclesiastes 11:5; Job 10:8-9; Genesis 11:1-9.

3. Nationality – Esther 4:14.

4. Economic Status – Psalm 40:5.

5. Birth Order – Jeremiah 1:5; Psalm 27:3.

6. Physical Features - Psalm 139:13-18; Exodus 4:11; Isaiah 45:9.

7. Aging and Death – Psalm 90:10, 12.

2. SPIRITUAL "SERVICE" GIFT – Romans 12:3-15 - Spiritual "service" gifts are designed to strengthen and build up the body of Christ as "every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part" (Ephesians 4:16).

There are three categories of "Spiritual Gifts," each with its own set of characteristics:

  1. The Sign Gifts, or Manifestation Gifts – 1 Corinthians 12:4-11, 27-30. Miracles verify God’s work in your life – they are God’s "stamp of approval." These gifts have largely expired, although God is able to make use of certain gifts in extraordinary circumstances.

  2. Support Gifts, or Ministry Gifts – Ephesians 4:7-12. These are leadership gifts, used by God to guide the body of Christ.

  3. Service Gifts, or Motivational Gifts – Romans 12:4-8. These gifts are largely in full force today (with the exception of the gift of Prophecy, which has taken on a more limited nature), and they are seen, to some extent or another, in every Christian.

There are seven spiritual gifts listed in Romans 12:4-8. Each has its strengths, as well as its weaknesses:

  1. Prophecy – Proclaiming Truth. God has motivated the "prophet" to teach the body of Christ the importance of purity and holiness. They see and verbalize things as black and white, right and wrong. Their frankness may be viewed as harshness and intolerance of partial good. They are God’s "blood hounds" for "sniffing out" sin. "Prophets" have a strong desire for justice; they are often unforgiving; they are often open about their own faults; and they tend to be impetuous and impulsive. They are perceivers, who treat all perceptions as fact.

  2. Ministry – Serving. God uses the "server" to illustrate the "Golden Rule:" Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. they love to help their fellow man. They are alert to detecting and meeting practical needs, but often have an inability to say "no." A "server" will "give you the shirt off his back," and finish a job with unexpected "extra" service. He also usually has "too many irons in the fire."

  3. Teaching – The "teacher" enjoys research as much as teaching. God has motivated them to maintain the purity and accuracy of the Word of God. They test the knowledge of those around them. They enjoy learning and accumulating information. Their requirement for verbal and written accuracy may appear judgmental and prideful of learning. They love books and knowledge.

  4. Exhortation – Counseling. God has motivated the "exhorter" to assist the body of Christ in solving its problems by revealing the laws of "cause and effect." An exhorter specializes in "one-on-one" counseling. they enjoy "straightening out crooked things" by prescribing specific biblical steps of action to solve problems. They need to be cautious not to put confidence in their own counsel, but in counsel from the Word of God.

  5. Giving – The "giver" loves to meet the financial needs of those around them. God uses them to teach us that "it is more blessed to give, than to receive," and to "give in secret." They like for their giving to motivate others to give. They live very frugally, and do not respond will to pressure appeals to give.

  6. Ruling – Organization. The "ruler" has the God-given ability to bring organization and discipline to their surroundings. they can keep several projects going at one time, and delights in delegating tasks to responsible people. They are fulfilled in seeing all the pieces of the "project puzzle" come together, and others enjoying the finished product. To some, it may look as if they "love projects and use people." At times, they may show favoritism, with the goal of building loyalty.

  7. Mercy – Compassion. The "mercy" naturally gravitates to those who are hurting, especially in their emotions. God uses this gift to teach us how to be tenderhearted and compassionate with our fellow man. they love children and the elderly, and are attracted to pets and stray animals. They react to insensitive people, and may take up another’s offense. Unlike the "Prophet," they may tend to treat feelings as facts.

3. TALENTS – These are things you are born with – musical, artistic, and vocal talents, as well as aptitudes, coordination, and athletic abilities.

4. AVAILABILITIES (Opportunities) – These are opportunities that are made available to us in life. If your father is a mechanic, you may learn how to work on cars. You are able to get a higher education, meet certain people, and so on, because of your social and economic heritage. Furthermore, the different personality types and spiritual gifts which you are exposed to within the context of your family life will color your responses, provide a template for your general reactions, and provide opportunities, by your association with them, in your community and circle of influence.

5. MENTALITY (I.Q.) – Exodus 4:11 - This is something that you are born with. God chooses to dispense intelligence, as He sees fit. Someone with learning disabilities or Dyslexia does not have to be "handicapped" in their spirit (2 Corinthians 10:12; 12:7-10).

6. PERSONALITY – Temperament – Psalm 139:13-18 – God has "wired" our personality in four basic ways. These four are much like the four buttons on a cassette recorder. A person is usually primarily one of these buttons, with the characteristics of a secondary button or characteristic.

  1. Play (Sanguine) - Very talkative, friendly, and people oriented. They often start things, but don’t finish them. They are easily distracted, undisciplined, undependable, and often late. The Biblical goal for their life: Finish What You’ve Started (Luke 14:28-29).

  2. Rewind (Melancholy) - Spends their life in the past. They are analytical and perfectionistic, and usually gifted in music, art, singing, and so on. They tend to have high expectations of themselves and others. Can be moody, negative, and critical. The Biblical goal for their life: Trust In God (Psalm 62:5).

  3. Fast Forward (Choleric) – They are strong-willed, active, decisive, opinionated, and optimistic leaders. they will tend to lead and make decisions for anyone who will allow it. They are obsessed with being in charge. The Biblical goal for their life: Yield Your Will to God (Luke 22:42; John 3:30).

  4. Stop (Phlegmatic) – They are slow, easy-going, quiet peacemakers, with a dry sense of humor. They can be self-protective, stingy, fearful, calculating, and indecisive. The Biblical goal for their life: Volunteer to Help (2 Corinthians 12:15).

7. GRACE

  1. Grace is the God-given desire and power to do the will of God (Philippians 2:13).

  2. Paul reminds us that "by the grace of God I am what I am" (1 Corinthians 15:10).

  3. God uses grace to stir everything together, to give each person a direction and a purpose for the advancement of His kingdom. God finances the project with His Body S.T.A.M.P. "inheritance" gift to us.

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